Episodes
Sunday Sep 20, 2020
That Could Be Useful
Sunday Sep 20, 2020
Sunday Sep 20, 2020
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This morning I am making the most of this beautiful, sunny September weather (a rare blessing in the north of Scotland).
It has prompted me to finally clear out the garage which is something I have been putting off for months. I find myself stepping over ‘useful’ things that have been here a long time and as I started sifting through boxes that I haven’t opened in over 17 years I unearthed lots of ‘useful’ things.
This got me thinking about how we keep things or keep doing because we think they are useful. They may have been useful once, but are they still useful now?
My garage, like my office and my kitchen drawers are full of useful things that I haven’t used for years. Some I have even forgotten I have. The challenge is I hate putting useful things in the bin to be put into the ground, I have a thing about recycling and re-using so I end up holding on to loads of ‘useful’ things, old computer’s, folders, files, even battery chargers. The problem is I want it to be used, but haven’t quite worked out where.
So yesterday I started my Maria Condo thing. but instead of asking “does this bring me joy”, I was asking “will I ever use this, will I do anything useful with it”.
My computer is the same. It is cluttered with useful documents and files that I intend to do something with, and when I cleared out my father’s house after his death, that was the same. There were loads of tools and old tins of screws etc. that he never got round to doing anything with.
But it is not just the material objects we hang on to. There are things we do in our life, that we keep doing because we have always done them, because it was useful to do things that way at a certain point, but maybe it’s not useful to do them any more.
This reminded me of something Keith Blakemore-Nobel said in our last event. “When you’re young you’re told not to talk to strangers, but when you reach the age of 16+ not talking to strangers can be very restrictive in your life.
There are probably numerous things in our history, in our psyche in the way we do things that no longer apply, that are no longer useful.
So my suggestion is to reflect on what you have in your life that is no longer useful? Maybe it is time to replace “that could be useful” with “this is no longer useful to me”
So that is where clearing out the garage led me on this beautiful day. I hope you find some beauty where you are.
FOOTNOTE
I will be live on the Life Passion and Business Facebook page on Wednesday to tell you about a new event that goes live in the middle of November.
The next podcast is with Fear Strategist, Keith Blakemore-Noble and we will be discussing how he overcame his fears. Keith has published 3-4 books and his newest “The Masks We Wear”
It is nothing to do with Covid – he wrote it before all this began. The book is being launched on 26th September and will be available on Amazon at the exclusive price of just 79p (Link Here) and it comes with a package of loads of additional resources, so it is well worth ordering your copy before the price goes up.
Sunday Sep 13, 2020
Creating Space For Things To Happen
Sunday Sep 13, 2020
Sunday Sep 13, 2020
It has been an interesting a week, if you follow my podcast or heard my personal shortcast last weekend you will know that I took my son to start his new life in university housing last week and I am starting my new life as an ’empty-nester’.
I have to say there have been a range of emotions passing through me: grief, joy, sadness and many more. Of course, I want my son to go off into the world and have a fantastic time, but that doesn’t change how I feel having lost my best friend.
It is the beginning of a fascinating journey, and has given me an insight into how estranged parents feel without access to their children or worse when parents literally lose a child. I haven’t lost mine, he is just 2 hours away, but he’s no longer in my daily life, and I’m having to readjust my day life and find new ways of being, filling the gap left behind.
COVID, the gift and curse, has given us an opportunity to be together at home every day for the last 6 months. I am so privileged to have had the opportunity to spend this unique time with my teenager.
His moving on has given me the chance to look at the idea of creating space around transitions, allowing space to be, so that new stuff can come in naturally.
In relationships, it is common for people to jump into a new relationship immediately, and is known as ‘rebound’ and I’m discovering that this rebound action could be applied to anything.
Recognising this, I have used this past week for slowing down and taking stock of what I want over the next period of my life. I joke about the idea that my son was an 18-year project that no longer needs my daily attention. Not true, he is texting daily, but that will slow over time.
The future looks bright. I’ve got lots of opportunities with the podcast, events and all sorts of projects in front of me. But I need to allow space and time to adjust, find my new daily rituals and breathe into the new life that I’m building.
My question to you this week is where are you allowing space and time to listen to the quiet opportunities that are looking to be born? I had an interesting catch-up chat with one of our guests from the last summit, Simon Jordan. He was saying that as entrepreneurs, we can make things happen, but the best results come when we allow things to flow. When we allow time and space for what is waiting to be born, things occurs in a state of natural flow rather than stress and struggle.
So I put this out to you: What are you giving time for, where are you making space so that you can reconnect with passion, excitement and joy?
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Monday Sep 07, 2020
Change Is Relentless
Monday Sep 07, 2020
Monday Sep 07, 2020
This has been a week of change for me, and indeed for everyone whether recognised or not. Change is happening all the time.
This week I am reflecting on my attitude to change, both in my relationship to the attachment / detachment aspects of parenting and in the broader life sense.
Where is it in your life that you are embracing change, and where are you resisting it and why is that?