Episodes
Sunday Jan 07, 2024
Shortcast : Intuition & Inspiration
Sunday Jan 07, 2024
Sunday Jan 07, 2024
Intuition and inspiration: where does that sit in your New Year’s resolutions, goals, or intentions that you set for 2024? There is so much pressure to set intentions or goals at the beginning of the year.
I suspect many people feel pressured into coming up with something, and it’s invariably dumped by the middle of January. Why is it so difficult to set a meaningful, achievable goal at this time of year?
In this podcast, we look at the idea that the best goals come from intuition. They come out of inspiration, and when those things are in alignment, it’s only a matter of doing.
Tomorrow is the 8th of Jan, and for many, it is the first full week back at work, last week was about going through the motions. Well, it was when I was in corporate. Actually, it was about preparing for a trip to Paris to look at Christmas Decorations. Yes, 20 years back, I finished Christmas only to go back to work and start looking at Christmas.
Thankfully, I have left Christmas decoration planning behind, but I still retain one discovery from that time. Kings Cake.
Kings Cake, Intuition and Inspiration.
In the Harvey House, Christmas ends on the 5th of January at King’s Night, where we have a King’s dinner to celebrate the end of the 12 days of Christmas and to explore intuition and wisdom for the coming year and eat Kings Cake.
Check out the show and hear the story of how I discovered King’s Cake. But more the point, today’s conversation is all about how we bring our intuition and inspiration into our lives to align with our goals and intentions. That is the path towards living a good life.
Million Dollar Year Update
If you have missed this conversation see these podcasts.
https://lifepassionandbusiness.com/shortcast-money-and-thought/
https://lifepassionandbusiness.com/paul-harvey-money-bags/
If you know there is still time to join the million-dollar year experiment, you can find the link below.
The experiment is a one-year program or container held by Joanna Hunter where we look at how it is possible to generate one million dollars in one year. Do check the previous two podcasts, where I explore the project. This week’s topic of conversation was about deserving. Do you feel you deserve it? That’s fascinating, isn’t it?
Because unless we feel that we can have a million, we never will. To find out more about this program and how it could benefit you check out the link The Million Dollar Experiement.
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Wednesday Jan 03, 2024
Money Bags
Wednesday Jan 03, 2024
Wednesday Jan 03, 2024
Where do you keep your money bags? Well, what I really mean is, have you explored your money baggage? It has been said there was no shortage of money in the world for all that needed to be done. So why is it not done?
On this show, we are looking at money and the thinking around it. Did you know that money is not real? It is a thought that has become a universal agreement.
The majority of money is ones and zeros on a computer. We have all signed up for this thought experiment and created an economy around it. Money is a convenient tool to transfer energy and intention.
But with that thought experience comes a whole list of baggage. Money baggage: there is no shortage of money; there is, however, a gap in our realities around it., and that is what needs sorting.
On Tuesday, I caught the launch party for My Million Dollar Experiment with Joanna Hunter. She is a metaphysical practitioner and a very successful businesswoman.
Her current business is in the creation of conscious millionaires. As she says, what if there was no shortage of money in the world for all that needed to be done? We could solve climate change and educate and feed people.
How would it be possible to create conscious millionaires? That is where metaphysics comes in because it is about changing the mindset and moving the money baggage.
The launch party was for the Million Dollar Experiment, and the question is.
“Would it be possible for you to make $1,000,000 in the next 12 months? “
Before you disregard that statement, what thought came up for you? I imagine there was a whole list of ifs, buts and nos. It does for me.
My Million Dollar Experiment 2021 results
However, it has been done before. In 2021, Joanna ran that experiment with just over 4000 people, and 16 people declared they made the million. Another 3 kept it quiet. As a percentage, it is less than 0.5%. So, let us consider the numbers.
That 0.5% percentage is better than a lottery win.
How many people came close?
What changed in the lives of those involved?
I am delighted to participate in this experiment because, at the launch party, I could feel my triggers coming up; even creating this podcast and making the offer available to you has shown me that I have some work to do.
Is it Time to Find Your Money Bags?
There is still time; while the experiment has started, the option to join is still open, and it is only $25. Check out the show if you want to know why the price is so low.
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Sunday Dec 31, 2023
Money and thought or thought and money
Sunday Dec 31, 2023
Sunday Dec 31, 2023
Money and thought or thought and money, what comes first, the money or thinking about it? In this show, we are considering the energy of money.
Does money have energy? Not directly but money itself is the transfer of energy, which is the representation of energy being transferred from person to person. Before there was money, there was barter, and yet, in some way, we still experience the level of barter in our day-to-day interactions with people.
Many transactions in life are not fiscal, but they do serve us and bring us service or service to others.
Here is the link to the Million Dollar Experiment;
In this show, we are touching on the experiment that starts tomorrow, the first of January. Is it possible to create one million dollars or one million pounds in one year?
As I said in the last podcast on the subject, this is about expanding our consciousness so that we can become open to the possibility of generating this level of income, but there are so many little nuances to this, as you’ll hear on the podcast you know I am struggling to get my head around it.
The experiment is not my event; I am a participant in it, and I’d be delighted if you joined us. You can see the link below. It is an affiliate link because that’s how this process works, so do check it out.
But as I said last week, even if I aim for this number and hit a fraction of it, that is still a win, yet even that action itself demonstrates my limited thinking. So it is thought and money that comes first or thought and money?
Here is the link to the Million Dollar Experiment; there are only a few hours left for you to join in.
Other News for 2024
It is going to be a fascinating year with lots going on. I’m involved in a number of projects; there will be a new coaching program and a load of opportunities to explore what it means to lead a good life.
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The Million Dollar Year
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Sunday Dec 10, 2023
Shortcast : Slow Down
Sunday Dec 10, 2023
Sunday Dec 10, 2023
Slow down and take some time for yourself. The power of slowing down is life-changing, for me this conversation about slowing down is fundamental to who we are as human beings.
In this show, we look at the power of slowing down
During the interview podcast, we talk about contribution and how we contribute to ourselves. We live this life for ourselves although we do things for other people, it is about us our life journey and our experience. We can only discover this stuff by asking the right questions and giving space to hear the answers.
So much of the time we spend either looking forward or looking backwards, I have been here. The action of living in the moment is about slowing down to appreciate what we have, finding a moment of grace, a time just to breathe and be.
It’s no wonder that the world is fascinated by mindfulness, meditation, and yoga, and these internal practices are so popular. It is because we are crying out to discover how to put something back into our lives.
That something is most probably meaning, but that is another conversation.
When we take a moment to slow down and connect with who we are and understand what we want in this moment, it connects us to the bigger picture.
Check out the podcast and see how taking time to slow down might be just what you need.
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Sunday Dec 03, 2023
Shortcast : It is all for You.
Sunday Dec 03, 2023
Sunday Dec 03, 2023
It is all for you. What I mean by this is everything that unfolds in front of you is for you, and that is the journey of life. It is a simple thought that can change your life.
In the show, we are exploring some of the quotations around this point and looking at how you embrace the idea so that you can have a better journey.
“Life is simple. Everything happens for you, not to you. Everything happens at exactly the right moment, neither too soon nor too late. You don’t have to like it… it’s just easier if you do.” Byron Katie
“Life doesn’t happen to you, it happens for you.” Jim Carrey
There are thousands of comments and quotes like this, and they all stem from the Buddhist idea that life is suffering and our only option is acceptance and non-attachment. I appreciate that when the sh1T is hitting the fan, such comments and quotes are not always helpful.
In this show, we explore the thinking behind the idea that life happens for you and why it is important to use that mindset because it opens the opportunity for resilience, new experiences and growth.
Going into the hole of the world is out to get me never leads anywhere good.
Check out the show and see how that simple thought can change your life.
Life Passion & Business Podcast is about finding answers to life’s big questions through weekly interviews with guest speakers. The Shortcast is my ongoing commitment to staying interested and passionate about life with whatever is alive for me each week. Follow the links below to discover what else is on offer.
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Sunday Nov 26, 2023
Shortcast : Tomorrow Will Do
Sunday Nov 26, 2023
Sunday Nov 26, 2023
I am currently visiting my son and recorded this show outside, so the audio quality, will be a little different, and there will be birds and traffic.
Our subjective today is thanks to Russell Dalglish, who posted a question on Linkedin “If not now, then when?” For me, tomorrow will do is right up there with don’t do today what you can put off until tomorrow.
I have my own painful procrastination experience this weekend. I got a parking ticket but how is that relevant?
Procrastination is the art of not making choices. Why are we so bad at making choices? Actually, some people are very good, and they are the people who get loads of stuff done. Russel, for example, has his own system.
But what is it that separates them from everyone else?
People like Russell have discovered the system that works for them, a means to overcome the fear of choices and attachment to outcomes.
On this show, you will discover the tools I use on myself and with clients to get us through the indecision and into the place of making a firm choice.
The point is most of the time, there is only one choice or realistically there no choice just the option we like the least.
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Sunday Nov 19, 2023
Shortcast Pain or Values
Sunday Nov 19, 2023
Sunday Nov 19, 2023
Are you motivated by pain or value? So the bigger question is, do we need to experience pain in order to move or change?
In the shortcast, we are exploring how there are times when pain is a motivation, but for the really big changes in life, there has to be something else driving the action.
Looking at pain as in the ex-marketer, I can say marketing techniques will use pain to drive people towards a buying decision. It is about convincing people that buying stuff will make their lives better.
There is no doubt that some pain is a powerful motivator physical pain like toothache needs drugs, followed by a dentist appointment to solve the problem. There is nothing that you would not do to get rid of toothache.
But these are base-level problems and dovetail into Maslow's Hierarchy of Needs. ( if that is new to you, see here. At the bottom of the pyramid, we're looking for safety, security and physical comfort. Physical pain is physical discomfort, and we want to change that.
As we move up the pyramid, when all of the basic needs and desires are met, it is time to self-actualise and do things in the world. But the question still comes: what is it that motivates us to do something to make a difference in our lives.
In this shortcast, we explore how pain, values and meaning are the core seeds of motivation for change.
Life Passion & Business Podcast is about finding answers to life’s big questions through weekly interviews with guest speakers. The Shortcast is my ongoing commitment to staying interested and passionate about life with whatever is alive for me each week. Follow the links below to discover what else is on offer.
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Sunday Nov 05, 2023
Shortcast Why Expectations Hurt
Sunday Nov 05, 2023
Sunday Nov 05, 2023
We all have them occasionally, so why do expectations hurt? Because most of the time, they are unrealistic, and we are attached to the outcome.
On the show today, we are exploring expectations, why the hurt when not met and how we can become less attached and free ourselves from the pain.
Today, I was running a 10k race, a real one that would give me an official time. Last year I ran this race About a month after I completed a marathon, and I achieved a time of 50 minutes and one second. it was very frustrating having just tipped over the 50 minutes.
There is a story here, but the long and short is when I booked this race, I had an expectation that I would train hard and reach my goal of a sub 49 minute 10K. But the training did not happen, and there I was at the start line and in my opinion, I was not ready for it.
However, it allowed me to release my expectations. I approached this race with the sense that if I could get under 55 minutes, I would be happy enough, but if I could actually get below 50 minutes, that would be an achievement. Did I achieve it? Actually, I was pleasantly surprised.
The point of this conversation today is that we are looking at expectations and why they trip us up. It is always about an attachment to the outcome. When the target becomes more important than the journey to get there, we make the target really important. That is when we open ourselves to the pain of failure.
The solution is smart goals that are a stretch but will fall back positions.
Check out the podcast and get in touch if you need support with your expectations.
Life Passion & Business Podcast is about finding answers to life’s big questions through weekly interviews with guest speakers. The Shortcast is my ongoing commitment to staying interested and passionate about life with whatever is alive for me each week. Follow the links below to discover what else is on offer.
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Sunday Oct 29, 2023
Shortcast : Perfection
Sunday Oct 29, 2023
Sunday Oct 29, 2023
Perfection is an ideal that can break the soul and spirit of the best of us; getting hooked into a perfectionist state can lead to all manner of self-depreciation.
On our show today, we are looking at the mindset of perfection how chasing perfectionism can lead to shame and a sense of failure.
Where did the need to be perfect come from? It may have been sports. Watching elite athletes, there is no doubt that they are looking for the perfect performance every time they step up to the line. But they train for this moment, and much of that moment’s performance is out of their control. Of course, only the winners are celebrated; they get to take it all.
One of the biggest factors in performance thinking is the comparison with others. That is with family, friends or work colleagues. Company culture can feed the peak performance narrative, as can social media.
Part of this conversation is looking at the success model and exploring strategies that can make us aware and tackle the self-deprecation caused by perfectionism.
Do you have any thoughts about chasing perfection?
Life Passion & Business Podcast is about finding answers to life’s big questions through weekly interviews with guest speakers. The Shortcast is my ongoing commitment to staying interested and passionate about life with whatever is alive for me each week. Follow the links below to discover what else is on offer.
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Sunday Oct 22, 2023
Shortcast : Being Of Service
Sunday Oct 22, 2023
Sunday Oct 22, 2023
Being of service, what does that mean to you? How do you see service, is it like any other transaction or something more?
In the interview podcasts, one of the questions is about contribution both to the world and ourselves. Our contribution to the world is about making a difference, and for most people on the show, that is their life work; it’s what they do and get paid for. It is a service, but not necessarily “giving service”.
I am the same. I’m a coach, and when I produce podcasts, it is a service because I give freely, but at the same time, it’s about getting my name out of the world so that people like yourself know that I’m available to give you support. It is a contribution, but it is not about serving freely with no strings.
In this podcast, we consider being of service, and how we serve, the thinking behind it and how the world could be a better place if service were given without it being transactional.
Being of Service
On Friday, I saw a woman struggling to move a few tonnes of recently delivered firewood; she was rushing to get it under cover before the rain hit. I stopped what I was doing and took over the wheelbarrow so she could focus on the stacking. She was so grateful. “ Thank you so much; this is what real community is about”.
My wood carrying felt good to know that I had supported her to get the fuel moved and under cover before that rain hit, and it was a good move because, boy, not 30 minutes later, it rained hard and for hours and hours.
Back to the point, being of service is a beautiful gift, but when it comes with strings, it is no longer a gift of service.
Life Passion & Business Podcast is about finding answers to life’s big questions through weekly interviews with guest speakers. The Shortcast is my ongoing commitment to staying interested and passionate about life with whatever is alive for me each week. Follow the links below to discover what else is on offer.
Discover Life, Passion & Business:
There is a lot to gain from listening to other people’s stories. However, the real work begins by taking action in your own life. Now you’re here, please explore our Events and Resources pages to discover how Life Passion & Business can support you.
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Sunday Oct 15, 2023
Shortcast : Singing for hope
Sunday Oct 15, 2023
Sunday Oct 15, 2023
Singing for hope and freedom was fundamental for Black African-American slaves. It gave them the resilience they needed through the darkness and was the path to emancipation.
I was in a singing workshop on Sunday with Dr Kathy Bullock, a music professor, Gospel leader, singer, performer and teacher of music from the black traditions. Over the day, we explore the early spiritual music, the songs of slavery, Gospel and African rhythms.
She is a descendant of slavery; her great-grandfather was born a slave, so the history is very close.
It has been her mission for over 30 years to bring this music and the stories it contains out to the world. Full of passion and energy, she can hold a room with 100 people or more, teach them a piece in 4-part harmony and have them singing within minutes.
Singing for Hope
It was sad, reflective and uplifting as we sang the songs written by people experiencing and living the injustice and pain of slavery and ongoing repression. These songs are about singing for hope, but it is so much more than that. It was about creating a shared vision of a better life and making it an affirmation.
Singing together is a powerful experience, and living close to the Findhorn Foundation, I consider myself privileged to live in a community where singing together in harmonies is normal and world-renowned teachers and presenters come to share their wisdom and experience with us.
The day was about the power of shared music as a means of communication, an expression of faith and resilience. This conversation is my reflection on the day and on the power of singing together. On reflection, I can see that music could be one of the tools to transcend our differences.
Life Passion & Business Podcast is about finding answers to life’s big questions through weekly interviews with guest speakers. The Shortcast is my ongoing commitment to staying interested and passionate about life with whatever is alive for me each week. Follow the links below to discover what else is on offer.
Discover Life, Passion & Business:
There is a lot to gain from listening to other people’s stories. However, the real work begins by taking action in your own life. Now you’re here, please explore our Events and Resources pages to discover how Life Passion & Business can support you.
Quick Links:-
- The Five Questions eBook
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Wednesday Oct 11, 2023
World Mental Health Day
Wednesday Oct 11, 2023
Wednesday Oct 11, 2023
World Mental Health Day is about raising awareness that the mind matters and that it is OK to ask for help. Much of my work is about how we take responsibility for who we are and how we present ourselves in the world.
Disclaimer: I am not a healthy professional. None of what I say should be taken as professional advice. Everything that I use or describe is based on my journey.
The most important thing I must say is If you need help, reach out and ASK.
Disclaimer aside, In this show, we explore some of the reasons why mental health is such a problem in modern living. It is the usual suspects: media, economics and money.
I was part of that world for long enough to know that the rules of the game are not about the mental health of the masses. But there are things that we can do to take care of our mental health, and that is routines and practices that support us.
In this show, we explore my path from what I would consider a low point in my life and look at the tools I used to pull myself out of my hole.
We are looking after each other.
A final note: while that day is about raising awareness, it is also about being aware of those around you. If you notice a friend or work colleague is different or quiet. Do check and ask if they are OK; reaching out can change someone’s life for the better.
Talking about this helps get people out of the cycle of the mind; getting them off the tape on repeat can make such a difference.
Here is the link to the UK site. I suggest a Google search in your location for more local resources.
https://lifepassionandbusiness.com/world-mental-health-day/
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Sunday Oct 08, 2023
Shortcast : Write it or Lose it
Sunday Oct 08, 2023
Sunday Oct 08, 2023
Write it or lose it; what does that mean? In business, everything is recorded transactions, notes of meetings, etc. So why is it that in our personal life, we rarely write down our intentions?
There is a saying in business that unless something is measured, it is not managed. Without written intentions, goals or plans for our general life, we are not managing the path to them.
In this week’s shortcast, we’re exploring how the plasticity of our minds means unless we write something down, we lose it. So write it or lose it is the only way forward.
We briefly touch on journaling and secrets and gems you might find—goals, intentions, and why affirmations work.
All that is a very compact conversation
Life Passion & Business Podcast is about finding answers to life’s big questions through weekly interviews with guest speakers. The Shortcast is my ongoing commitment to staying interested and passionate about life with whatever is alive for me each week. Follow the links below to discover what else is on offer.
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Sunday Oct 01, 2023
Shortcast : Catastrophising
Sunday Oct 01, 2023
Sunday Oct 01, 2023
Are you guilty of Catastrophising? We have all been there at some point; once started, it is a circle that becomes a downward spiral.
A client discussion prompted our topic this week. They are experiencing a financial gap, and it is not getting any smaller. I know it’s a problem that many people are finding where there is more month than money to go around.
Whether it was a bad day or a bad week, this particular conversation was spiralling down to the bottom of the swamp.
The problem was they had locked onto a train of thought, and the conversation was becoming tighter and tighter, about all the possible things going wrong had gone wrong this week and would go wrong next week.
I appreciate that this situation is complex and that many people are in similar problems. But what is very clear to me with a nod to Einstein.
We are never going to change a circumstance or a situation by using the same thinking that got us into that situation or circumstance.
Getting out of any fix will take fresh thinking, creative solutions and maybe even doing the unthinkable. When we Catastrophise, all of our resilience goes, and the mind locks onto the worst-case scenario.
What is needed is expansive thinking.
Some tools can help. I’ve spoken about living in the spiral many times and the work I do to keep myself moving upward. If I don’t do the work, I tend to slip downwards. So that means, for me, a daily practice, daily work on myself.
On this show, we explore the problem of catastrophising, my experience and the best solution to get out of that line of thinking.
Life Passion & Business Podcast is about finding answers to life’s big questions through weekly interviews with guest speakers. The Shortcast is my ongoing commitment to staying interested and passionate about life with whatever is alive for me each week. Follow the links below to discover what else is on offer.
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There is a lot to gain from listening to other people’s stories. However, the real work begins by taking action in your own life. Now you’re here, please explore our Events and Resources pages to discover how Life Passion & Business can support you.
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Sunday Sep 24, 2023
Shortcast : The Liking Gap
Sunday Sep 24, 2023
Sunday Sep 24, 2023
What is the liking gap? Have you ever been in a conversation with a group of people, that went well, But after you start having doubts?
Some people run these conversations like a tape thinking and I wishing they hadn’t said something. Or remembering expressions on people’s faces and being convinced that they have offended them in some way.
In this podcast, we are exploring the liking gap, it is the stories and interpretations that we create in the absence of real feedback.
The standard coaching approach to this issue is to remind the client of something very important.
What other people think of me is none of my business.
It is a phrase gets pushing in personal development I’ve even used it with clients and been on the receiving end of it.
It is so true because what other people think of me, is what goes inside other people’s heads. I have absolutely no control over it. So worrying about it is not going to serve, but that doesn’t stop us worrying about it.
So I was fascinated this week to discover some work by Erica Boothby From the University of Pennsylvania. She and her team did some research in this process, looking at how we perceive that gap between what we think someone is thinking and our interpretation of it.
It is called the liking gap, and there are some simple strategies to reduce how it affects us.
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